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Being a good and humble listener for your friend

Being a good listener is not easy, because sometimes people who talk about their problems just to reduce the burden of their mind without having to ask you to provide a solution for them, by telling their tight breasts to be a little relieved, their hearts are troubled to become a little clumsy. So wait whether he asks you to give a solution or not, if so, then you give an alternative solution without having to force it, hold on to the principle that the decision is still there, not your decision. Apart from that, you might need to see the excellent counseling service in Littleton, CO which is not too far from the University of Denver.

In addition, what you need to remember is that the person who tells the problem to us is not like a student who is constrained by a lesson and needs the help of his teacher, do not assume that it is as if you know the smartest, most mastering the problem. A situation like this, of course, will make someone feel uncomfortable to talk openly and frankly, because he feels lower than you, and feels he is treated like a child who knows nothing. To avoid the patronizing impression you must always remember that you are only a friend who is needed to share stories or dialogue about a problem, not the determinant of the best solution to the problem itself.

Be a good keeper of secrets for your friend

If we are trusted, it is our duty to maintain the confidentiality of one’s problems without having to wait for the person to ask not to tell someone else, the temptation to tell someone else is very strong, but it’s okay to tell, as long as the story is told, not the problem. the person owns the problem, because who knows the other party can help if you can’t provide a solution. But it’s good if he asks for your help to solve the problem while you can’t help at all, don’t be shy to say it, it’s better you suggest him to counseling with experts rather than you ‘know-it-all’ which ultimately results in even more complicated problems.

 

 

Unfortunately, some people may think that a secret can be “safe” to be shared with others that they think can be trusted. When it happens, it seems like to cause a domino effect, which chains from one person to another. Thus, making the secret no longer to be “classified” anymore. Therefore, preventing any information sharing in the first place will always be the wisest decision, whenever you’re being trusted with a secret which belongs to your friend.